expectations

Expectations

"nanay, anong alam mo gawin?" tanong ng anak ko hanggang iniintay namin ang pagkain na niluluto ni tatay.

"Well, marunong akong magpiano

Magsulat

Magturo

Magsalita (speaker/preach).

"Hindi!"  dugtong ng anak ko. "Anong alam mong lutuin? Di ba dapat marunong ang mga nanay magluto?"

Expectations…

Our children have expectations of who and what we are as parents. As my daughters expressed, she expects that mothers are good in the kitchen.

As parents we have our own expectations for our children.

We expect them to be

Good in school… even make it to the honor roll and get awards

Hindi muna mag bf/gf

What happens if

We were called to report to school because our child got him/herself involved in an act that merited suspension

Our child was  not able to graduate because he/she failed big time!

And Worse…

What if one day our daughters comes home confessing she is pregnant! (buti nga sana kung magtapat sya… e pano kung madiskubre mo at nung kumprontahin mo di pa nga aamin!)

Usually, in the family, it is always the parents who set expectations for which the children should obey and meet.

Ang hindi natin napapansin, children have their own expectations of us, their parents:

Sana nanjan ang parents lagi, nanunuod ng presentation sa school…

Sana my parents are home we I get home…

Sana I can tell my parents about my crush…

If we live by expectation, we fail to appreciate what each member can offer into the family relationship… we then end up frustrated

Disappointed

Unhappy.

"Mga anak, di ba dapat kayo ang maghugas ng plato! Ako pa din ba ang maghuhugas nan!"

Hay.